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sad-queer:

Building an Abolitionist Trans & Queer Movement with Everything We’ve Got

from Captive Genders (eds. Stanley and Smith) (2011) by Morgan Bassichis, Alex Lee, and Dean Spade. 

This is pretty accurate. Gay marriage only alleviates these issues for those who 1) get married and 2) whose socio-economic status affords them privileges like health care they can share with a partner, whereas the queer solutions recognise that many of our issues are shared with people outside the queer community with POC, the disabled, women, and other groups (and the queer intersections of those groups) and work to make the situation better for every disadvantaged and oppressed group, not just those we perceive to be just like us – that is, unlike gay marriage which mostly only benefits heteronormative white gays and lesbians, queer resistance (as described here) is concerned about fixing the causes of the problems which intersectionally affect many groups. Gay marriage is a very sloppy patch atop a decayed and amoral system and has been accepted by the mainstream precisely because it doesn’t challenge or upset the status quo. It is patriarchal, white, income-privileged, and aside from normalising sexual relationship between two people of the same gender (so long as they marry!), it does nothing to help single queer people raising children, undocumented queer people, queer people in non-monogamous relationships, queer people in polyamorous relationships, and so on. It is as stodgy and uninnovative a change as could possibly have been made, and that is precisely is why gay marriage because THE solution for achieving gay rights, because it doesn’t actually change anything – it just ever so slightly broadens the privileged caste to include people for whom their sexual orientation was the only thing keeping them out of the clubhouse in the first place.

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3: A fictional person that you think would be good in bed:

     Dale from Tucker and Dale vs. Evil. I think he’d be sweet and submissive and also he’s srsly fucking hot.

47: What is one song you’d like to have sex to?

     I dunno, I usually just play whatever’s on my mix and don’t pay much attention to it. I suppose Video Games by Lana Del Rey cuz it makes the special dude happy.

59: How would you feel about taking someones virginity?

     We’d have to talk about it first, make sure that we both were clear on what was going to happen and how we would feel afterwards. So I suppose a little nervous.

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6: The most awkward moment during a sexual experience was when ______________
I can’t really think of any. I guess there was a time I had to tell a guy he needed to go back to the shower because things weren’t as clean as he’d thought they were… but I was just like eh, it happens.

14: Is one orgasm enough? Are multiple orgasms necessary?
One is fun but if we have the time I’m always a fan of going again.

18: Weirdest sexual act some has performed [or tried to perform] on/with you:
Nobody’s really tried to do anything weird yet. I’m pretty open-minded when it comes to sex and most of the stuff people want to do I’m like “yeah, cool”.

27: Worst possible time to get horny:
During meetings. Ugh.

28: Do you like it when your sexual partner moans:
YES YES YES YES YES YES YES

30: How much fapping is too much fapping:
When it starts to hurt.

5, 9, 17?

5: Where is one place you would never have sex:
I dunno… a daycare probably.

9: Handcuffs, Rope, or Other [if other please explain]:
ALL OF THE ABOVE. Especially rope, I’m getting really good at it.

17: Two things you like [or dislike] about oral sex:
Um it’s basically the pizza of sexual activities. It’s hot and wet and
ideal for making me cum. I will give and receive and go again ten
minutes later. The only thing bad I can say about it is it puts you at
risk for gonorrhea, chlamydia, etc. So get your stuff tested regularly!

In honor of masturbation month….

1: Kitchen Counter, Couch, or on top of the dryer?
2: Your last sexual encounter: Good or Bad and why:
3: A fictional person that you think would be good in bed:
4: Something that never fails to make you horny:
5: Where is one place you would never have sex:
6: The most awkward moment during a sexual experience was when ______________
7: Weirdest thing that ever made you horny:
8: What is the best way to sexually bind someone:
9: Handcuffs, Rope, or Other [if other please explain]:
10: What is the fastest way to make you horny:
11: Top or bottom?
12: We were about to ____________ but then ______________
13: Would you ever take a sexual enhancement drug?
14: Is one orgasm enough? Are multiple orgasms necessary?
15: Something that you have hidden in your room that you don’t want anyone to find:
16: Weirdest nickname a significant other has ever called you:
17: Two things you like [or dislike] about oral sex:
18: Weirdest sexual act some has performed [or tried to perform] on/with you:
19: Have you ever tasted yourself? [If no, would you?] [If yes, what did you think?]
20: Is it ever okay to not use a condom:
21: Who was the sexiest teacher you ever had?
22: A food that you would like to use during a sexual experience:
23: How big is too big (peniswise):
24: One sexual thing you would never do:
25: Biggest turn on:
26: Three spots that drive you insane:
27: Worst possible time to get horny:
28: Do you like it when your sexual partner moans:
29: Worst sexual idea you ever had:
30: How much fapping is too much fapping:
31: Best sexual complement you ever got:
32: Bald, landing strip, Jumanji:
33: Is it good sex if you don’t nut:
34: Fill in the blanks: “If they ____________, we are fuckin”
35: What your favorite part of your body:
36: Favorite foreplay activities:
37: Love (>,<, or =) Sex For those of us who don’t remember our math thats “greater than, less than, or equal to]
38: What do you wear to bed?
39: When was the first time you masturbated:
40: Do you have any nude/masturbating pictures/video of yourself?
41: Have you ever/when was the last time you had sex outside?
42: Have/would you ever have sex outside?
43: Have/would you ever had a threesome?
44: What is one random object you’ve used to masturbate?
45: Have/would you ever masturbate at work?
46: Have/would you ever have sex on a plane?
47: What is one song you’d like to have sex to?
48: What is something nonsexual that makes you horny?
49: Most attractive celebrity?
50: Do you watch gay/lesbian porn? why/why not?
51: If a child was born on the occasion of the last time you had sex, how old would that child be right now
52: Has anyone ever posted nude pictures of you online?
53: What is one thing that NEVER makes you horny?
54: Do you have stretch marks?
55: How do you feel about your stretch marks?
56: Has anyone ever had a problem with your stretch marks?
57: Do you like giving head? (why/why not)
58: How do you feel about tattoos on someone you are interested in?
59: How would you feel about taking someones virginity?
60: Is there any food you would NOT recommend using during a sexual encounter?
61: Is there anything you do on tumblr that you would not like your significant other to see?
62: Do you own any sex toys? (what is it? (how long have you had it?)
63: Would you give your significant other unrestricted access to your Tumblr for a day?
64: Would you be offended if your significant other suggested you get plastic surgery?
65: Would you rather be a pornstar or a prostitute?
66: Do you watch porn?
67: How small is too small?
68: Have you ever been called a freak? Why?
69: Who gave you your last kiss? Did it mean anything?
70: Would you switch phones with your significant other for a day?
71: Do you feel comfortable going "commando"?
72: Would you have a problem with going down on someone if they hadn't shaved their pubic hair?
73: If you could give yourself head, would you?
74: Booty or Boobs?
75: If you had a penis, what would you name it?
76: Have you ever been on an official date?
77: Have you ever cheated on someone? (Why?)
78: If you were a stripper, what would your name be?
79: Have you ever had sex in your parents bed? (Would you?)
80: How would you react if you found out your parents had sex in your bed?
81: What was your reaction the first time you saw a penis/vagina